Growing up, Greg Lavin's military family of nine kids gave him a sense of belonging. But to what? The military academy consisted of 400 other kids who preferred to be home with their parents.

The real discipline he practiced was by himself-in sports and morality. He tried to pass the ball and support his teammates. College was a wonder, with three years of division I soccer and an ex-Marine coach who put him on a team of half-mile runners who became champions.

After college, Leavenworth Federal Prison scared Lavin to the core. A guard was knifed and died in his cellhouse. Greg became ready to fight and die if attacked. This was his moral lesson: keep his twenty-four-year-old fists balled up and ready to fight. Kill only as a last resort. And pray!