We all want to grow, but what is the measure of our growth, and how do we get there? Debby Gullery suggests that it is our capacity to love others that best illustrates our growth-and that we get there by intentionally investing in our most important relationships.

She believes that when we view our relationships as central to our spiritual and emotional growth, we pay more attention to our actions and attitudes and treat our partners and families with more care.

The essence of spirituality is paying attention, but it is also about learning to live from our core values and stretching our capacity to love. One of the best ways to accomplish this is by striving to become more loving with the very people whom we love the most!

In this way, the effort we invest in our marriages becomes part of our daily spiritual practice, full of real opportunities for us to move closer toward the spiritual people we are striving to become.

To live life well with intention and attention requires tremendous vulnerability and courage. But it also helps if we have some practical tools and techniques. Debby Gullery is a veteran marriage educator and relationship coach with years of experience teaching seminars and coaching couples. She shares her tricks of the trade in an empowering, step-by-step guide to building the kind of relationships we all really want.